On Balance, Friends, and Loving Unconditionally.

Sometimes I really think that the ultimate goal in human life is balance.  

We are naturally hypocritical creatures made up of conflicting qualities, aiming to achieve perfection when our circumstances scream "impossible" at every turn.  We avoid being what society deems to be unacceptable, and embrace the qualities we feel will be approved of by loved ones and strangers alike.  Some claim to not care what people think, yet dress to conform and find themselves in the limelight of popularity amongst their peers.  Others openly admit to caring too much what people think, yet secretly embrace what makes them different.

Our characters are a conundrum to ourselves, and yet we seek understanding from foreigners to our every thought.  We want to belong yet we aren't at home in our own mind.  We want the world to accept us, yet we live our daily lives in denial about the parts of ourselves we want to hide.  We practice loving others, but it is without substance.  We expect acceptance, but we do not treat ourselves like the delicate creatures we want others to embrace us as.

One of the biggest keys to balance, bliss, and almost-perfection, is the most illogical one out there.  It is only when we truly embrace the things we hate, that we learn to love ourselves and all that is around us.  It is only through acceptance that we make change - and yet we have been taught a much more stubborn and more seemingly logical way for so long, that this sort of thing becomes difficult to accept - leave alone practice.

A perfume update - from you?

Hello All,


I am not sure if writing this will have a point, especially if I'm not going to reach out to the lovely perfumistas I got to know in the past year, but I do hope that some of you may see this post.

I have been out of everything perfume-related for the past few months, and have also been going through some life changes.

Anyway, I briefly decided to "catch up" with my favourite bloggers, only to see all these strange perfume names that I'd never even heard of!  Not only that, but a large part of my sample collection seems to have evaporated :(

In the coming two weeks, while I sort myself out, I want to get back to reading my favourite perfume bloggers (if I ever commented on your perfume blog, you're one of them), but for now:

I need your help.

On Movie Buffs in Kenya

Are you a movie buff?  What is a movie buff, really?

Well, I'm a movie buff.  I'll tell you what that means to me:

- I always watch carefully for the craft of acting - I admire subtle actors more than the average joe, and that tends to mean that I like a lot of the non-dramatic actors the masses may consider "stiff" (eg chick from Juno, Dunham from Fringe, etc).
- I like classics, and consider it fun education to watch them.
- I admire composition in films, and love to see the rule of thirds being taken into account.
- I view the entire work as a piece of art, and expect each scene to be filmed, written, and acted out with purpose and focus - nothing is accidental and can therefore be analysed and discussed in deeper ways.
- I get excited about actors I like, when they get big opportunities.
- I have a few favourite directors and script writers whose working patterns have become clear to me.


Does any of this apply to you, and do you live in Nairobi?  If so, please go to this Facebook page and ask to join.  I am trying to start a small movie club for true movie buffs, so that we can meet people who are as passionate about films as we are.

Merry Christmas! :)

I haven't blogged in ages, as I've been super busy with three simultaneous projects.  Christmas Day will be my only day off, and then it is back to work again.  I'm not complaining though; I am working towards a goal that will give me plenty of free time. :)  I just popped in to wish you and yours well during the holiday season.

May your coming days be filled with love, light, and growth. We are in interesting times, and I am excited about the future. Tomorrow, make a slight extra effort to make someone happy. You'll be surprised how fast one's misery lifts when spreading cheer and love. I have always lived for the sole purpose of spreading love, light, and growth through inspiration - in any way I can. You don't have to be famous to do so - just love the people around you.

I will end my greeting to you all, with the words of Evo Morales. ♥




Evo Morales, Bolivia's first indigenous president, called for a new age to begin December 21, 2012. Speaking at the United Nations in September, Morales said the date signals an end to individualism and capitalism and a turn toward the collective good. That's a common theme for Morales, who often speaks of 'vivir bien,' a phrase that can be translated as living well. 'Vivir bien' is often defined by the Andean nation's leaders as pursuing the collective good in balance with the Earth, and contrasted with 'living better,' which is seeking to amass wealth at the expense of the planet or other people.

“And I would like to say that according to the Mayan calendar the 21 of December is the end of the non-time and the beginning of time. It is the end of the Macha and the beginning of the Pacha, the end of selfishness and the beginning of brotherhood, it is the end of individualism and the beginning of collectivism – 21 of December this year. The scientists know very well that this marks the end of an anthropocentric life and the beginning of a bio-centric life. It is the end of hatred and the beginning of love, the end of lies and beginning of truth. It is the end of sadness and the beginning of happiness, it is the end of division and the beginning of unity, and this is a theme to be developed. That is why we invite all of you, those of you who bet on mankind, we invite those who want to share their experiences for the benefit of mankind."

Transcript of Evo Morales Ayma, President of the Plurinational State of Bolivia, at the General Assembly of the United Nations on September 26, 2012.

Question Time: What moment made you feel like a child again?

I was at my boyfriend's home, and we were trying (together with his 15 year old brother) to choose a movie to watch.  It was late at night, and the brother and I were doing our usual teasing and joking. 

I don't know how it started exactly, but the brother, Robin, and I started walking circles around the pool table in the same room as the DVDs.  I jokingly referred to the Mummy DVD we had looked at, and put my hands up like a mummy.  We continued walking around the pool table in circles as my boyfriend tried to concentrate on the DVD shelf nearby.  I grabbed a piece of chalk from the blackboard nearby, and started tallying each "round" I did.

To make a long story short, it ended up being a "game" whereby my boyfriend, I, and Robin were walking around the pool table in circles with chalk in our hands, contributing to the drawing on the blackboard with silly - and mostly very rude/dirty - additions, every time we passed it.  The "rule", we had come to figure out, was that you could not stay at the blackboard long enough for the person behind you to catch up with you.  What the consequences would be, I don't know, and so we broke our own rule quite often when trying to read the terrible handwriting of one of the contributors (not me, of course!)

After about 30 minutes, it ended with me going round the pool table on their sister's pink mini-scooter, and Robin and my boyfriend arguing on the blackboard over who is the biggest idiot (or who was more homo-sexual).  I don't think I have ever seen that many drawings of genitalia in one night.  I have to add that they all looked diseased, but that can be blamed on the "artists" skills. ;)

My point is, all of this was very childish.  But it was harmless fun, and we laughed all the way through at how silly we were.

When was the last time you got silly and let go of your pride?  What really is wrong with being a child once in a while, if we do not harm anyone?  Why do we feel embarrassed (this is a question I should really ask myself), when we portray ourselves as less mature to the world?


These aren't rhetorical questions, so go ahead: share your stories! :)

On Make-Up

I haven't been blogging for a while due to lots of issues, but I just was about to start ranting away about yet another thought that I can't conclude on in a satisfactory manner, when it hit me that Twitter just isn't as awesome as Blogger when it comes to longer thoughts.  Plus, I get ignored by practically everyone on Twitter *cue violin music*

My issue today, is make-up.   

(Oh, and all the images in this blog-post were photographed by yours truly. :D   )

I lie, though.  Because this issue is not just an issue today.  It's an issue every day, and it actually has boggled my mind for so long that I feel incomplete without having concluded what I actually think of the entire phenomenon.  My dilemma started many years ago, when I hadn't even hit my teens yet (though I did have an interest in boys, as that had started when I was two - don't ask!).

Question Time: Does an association spoil things for you?

Hello All,

Rushing in to quickly post a question.  So much busier than I thought I'd be.  Hope you are all doing well :)

I'm currently having a salad with "garden herbs" (it's a ready-made salad with chicken and potatoes) and lavender is one of them.  Every time I bring my nose near to my salad, I am reminded of herbal perfumes (especially with the lavender!) and find myself losing my appetite.